Showing posts with label happy. Show all posts
Showing posts with label happy. Show all posts

Friday, March 7, 2014

Working Hypothesis on How to Achieve the 2 Forms of Happiness

Here are some new alterations I have done for my working hypothesis for Happiness concentrating on including the new Courage factor to deal with Fear. I have previously written out a hypothesis on achieving Happiness in an article called "The 4 Factors of Happiness". I have changed some old ways of explanations in some parts. I have also included the way to achieve long term Happiness. Any comment and suggestion is welcomed.

As explained before, I perceive concepts in mental models that would easily lose some meaning upon translation into the written language. Their structures can also be easily changed drastically with the input of additional information that would then require totally new translations for up-to-date accuracy. I could have chosen not to write them out since the original intact information are already in my head for my own benefit but I choose to do so for the sake of others. So the things I have written in my group updates or anywhere else — people reading them can choose to take it or leave it.


To feel short term feelings of happiness
- one must already have ability to feel harmony/peace to maintain balance and focus
- one must have some liberation such as those of money/skills/influence/connection to be confident that one can change things and resolve restrictions to gain liberation
- one must have intense curiosity that would lure one to resolve certain restrictions
- one must have true kind of courage to effectively resolve restrictions and fears leading to liberation that is the feelings of happiness

To feel sustainable feelings of happiness
- one must hold on to long term hopes of a happy future that would constantly bias one to perceive positivity/harmony in life. Such hopes can bias one to desire to increase one's existing liberation to prepare oneself to experience the future happiness that comes with a higher level of harmony

The 4 Factors of Happiness

Happy experiences arise when there are 4 factors present. And they are very much linked to the process of fulfilling one's curiosity:

1. The person has to be in realization of his/her already-abundant liberation/freedom,
2. must already be surrounded by qualities of compatibility/harmony/beauty/peace,
3. has to experience his/her curiosity of something being fulfilled in the present now moment,
4. the curious experience must enhance one's current level of compatibility/harmony/beauty/peace.

It takes as much as 4 factors for a person to be technically 'happy', which is why it is not an easy and frequent emotion to achieve.

Let me give an example based on the 4 factors—
Factor 1 — A person has enough freedom and money to feel the liberation to do what he wants. Factor 2— He has to be living in an environment that he is comfortable with, most likely a large, beautiful and tranquil house. Factor 3 — He is currently playing an interesting game or eating a very tasty exotic dessert that he is curious about and Factor 4 — it generates very pleasurable/harmonious feelings. He is feeling very contented and has no desire for other things. Such a scenario is what most people would generally recognize as a happy moment. Another similar happy experience could be that of a person on an exotic holiday or a birthday boy or girl opening many nice presents.

The above stated is the highest level of Happiness possible. The second highest level of Happiness is when a person has factors 1 and 2, but is in the process of working towards achieving factors 3 and 4. An example is a person in a liberating and compatible environment working or waiting to watch an exciting movie, TV drama, game or waiting to eat delicious food in a nice restaurant with good company. The third level of Happiness only contains factors 1 and 2. An example would be a wealthy person feeling liberated from poverty and living in a beautiful home. However, such a situation without fulfilling curiosity would easily lead to boredom and has potential to easily dip into the depressing emptiness that many wealthy people often feel.
The common notion of finding Happiness is to focus on feeling "positive" or "looking on the bright side of things". However, these old sayings were very vague because people did not really understand the meaning of feeling "positive" as there were no clearer and more definite explanations.

A psychiatrist once told me that his definition of finding Happiness is to "feel satisfied", which is similar to practicing gratitude or feeling grateful/contented for what one has. However, feeling grateful is still not a clear enough method to properly gain Happiness because if a person tries to feel grateful for his miserable current circumstances, he will still be focused on the limitations/restrictions that exists in his current reality which will constantly remind him of his own misery — this will only get him stuck/stagnant on feeling miserable. The right method is to firstly get the person focused on feeling grateful for the liberation that he possess, which he can use to improve his current situation.

I feel it is the focusing on one's liberation that is the first most crucial step to truly make one feel happy later on. By using the liberation/freedom to simply go out and do one's favorite things and be more creative and expressive allows the practice of one's liberation. It is the exciting rush of feeling free that I believe constitutes the true emotions of Happiness. People in this world have lots of access to do lots of great things, they just don't realize it. Happiness is a feeling that requires an active process to manifest, which is through the practice of one's existing liberation. Misery is the direct opposite of Happiness. People feel miserable because they feel stagnant/stuck by lots of restrictions and limitations and they can't feel free.

So, there is always an important reason how a person feels happy, there is no way people can feel happy for no reason as one book about Happiness has claimed. A person is happy because he is focused on his liberating freedom that is the true explanation of "feeling positive", and as he uses his liberation to do what is beneficial for him, he feels the exciting/adventurous/adrenaline rush of freedom/liberation that is the emotion of Happiness. And does not matter if he tries and fails, it is the intention that matters so there will be no regret of not trying. And as he does this kind of "focus on liberation" constantly to find his true self, his mental and physical well-being can improve drastically and he will become a more wholesome and healthy individual.
Even if a person has a terminal illness but chooses to focus on things that gives him liberation, he can still be happy. Remembering past memories of how one achieved great liberation for the self can also revive the old feelings of happiness and can motivate one to regain it in the present.

The old method of "feeling positive" and "looking on the bright side of things" requires the person to look for liberation outside of the self, which is wrong. The right way is to firstly recognize the liberation within the self/perception and work from there.

I have thought about why gays are given such a name. "Gay" also means happy and I think that is a very suitable description because gays constantly focus on feeling liberated through the process of being unique and creative or self-expressive, which makes them happy.

I perceive a happiness instructor to be very similar to a personal fitness instructor, the client has to be constantly reminded to focus on their liberating strengths rather than their negative focus on restriction, in order to change their old behaviors and improve themselves. So it is possible to be very mentally fit in happiness/liberation.

The Answers on How to Create and Sustain Happiness Indefinitely

There are many positive psychologists doing many studies about Happiness in the world. But they often ask stupid, superficial, materialistic and heavily distracted people for their opinions on how to achieve Happiness that is why they usually get stupid answers from them that only takes them round and round on a wild goose chase to really understand the nature of Happiness.

http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/significant-results/201308/whats-so-positive-about-positive-psychology

If the positive psychologists would continue to rely on the research data from such stupid worldly people forever then they will forever never get to fully understand Happiness (so this is where I come in).

But at least the positive psychologists have gotten an accurate grouping of the different types of Happiness seen from Hedonic(pleasurable feelings), Eudaimonic(greater good), Chaironic Happiness(spiritual-based Happiness) and prudential Happiness(sense of flow).

Positive psychologists have been trying to understand what really creates Happiness, they have also been searching for the ways to sustain the feelings of Happiness in people by getting them to constantly feel positive about life.

The answers are actually very simple. I have mentioned before that the feelings of Happiness comes from the feelings that come from achieving liberation and feeling liberated from restrictions.

The way to get people to constantly feel positive about life comes from getting them to hold on to a kind of hope that something very liberating and harmonious will happen to them in the future.

When people hold on to such hopes of something positive/harmonious happening to them in the future, they would not be biased to focus on the bad/disharmonious aspects of life in their present but they would be biased to focus more on the positive/harmonious aspects of life. Since they think the future would get better for them, they would therefore start and prepare to increase the positive/harmomious liberating aspects of life in their present while minimizing the negative/disharmonious restrictions currently found around them. They would also focus on treating themselves and others with harmony while they prepare to experience their positive harmonious kind of life in the future. They would therefore be constantly sustaining themselves to feel positive and be happy by focusing on the harmonious and liberating aspects of life that would generate the feelings of happiness.

The level of harmony found in one's future hopes is related to the level of harmony being perceived and practiced in the present.

The Happiness set point of how people normally feel most of the time, can be therefore be changed with the kind of hope held for the future.

If people think that there is a God who would punish them for their sins then they would lead a life where they constantly fear doing wrong things. They would get influenced by the Bible to hate sinful people in order to get to Heaven so they will go on their fanatic mission to try to take down gay people because they thought such a behaviour is their gateway to Heaven. The Christian religion was distorted by the ancient rulers to control people's behaviour and lessen the misbehaving people, it has now only turned to a huge bunch of nonsense.

But if people think that there is an all-understanding and accepting God, then they would not hold themselves accountable for anything they choose to do. They will do what they want with their own lives.

If people believe such things as having the possibility to ascend to a higher dimensional world where they would become beautiful and wouldn't age, they would not be too caught up by the limitations of the materialistic world and influences of the nasty people because they know they would be able to get away from it all eventually and get to go to a beautiful paradise world of immense harmony.

The amount of liberation found in people's lives and the reminder of such would create the onset manifesting feelings of Happiness. People's daily level of positivity that comes from perceiving harmony is dependent/sustained by the level of harmony found in their future hopes.

There is a relevant video that supports what I wrote—



Saturday, February 22, 2014

Mac VS PC — Good Reasons Why I Still Choose PC Over Mac

I have recently been noticing people who use the Mac for their music production and I was wondering why I haven't switched over to using a Mac already since I am just as artistic and stylish like them, and have done much music-remixing and video-editing myself.



The music band Aqua is considered to be technologically-advanced in their early days, their music videos made in 1997 were shot in the widescreen format that is very common nowadays.



Perhaps the main reason I haven't switched over to the Mac is because the Mac just looks too 'happy'. Such a quality is really not the best inclusion for writing non-fiction. I often write non-fiction political and spiritual writing and I always felt that the care-free happy-looking design of the Mac would distant me too far away from the harsh ugly reality, it would be like a culture shock trying to switch back and forth between the two realities. What people say about writers thriving in misery is true. Misery provides deep contemplation that goes on to provide inspiration.

Anyone remember this fairly old movie posted on the left about a writer being kidnapped by a miserable insane woman? And he manages to create great writing during his ordeal? Yeah, that's the kind of restricted misery I am talking about for writers to thrive in their work.

The other reason why I use the PC would be that the good Mac accessories can only be found at a Mac shop. And like true computer geeks, I dislike inadequate support. More accurately, I dislike the lack of adequate support for getting me firmly tied down to my writer's misery.

People reading this would now have a greater understanding why true-blue writers would use PCs and not that merry-go-round fruit novelty called the Mackintosh. PCs provide the lengthy reminder of the cruel harsh reality while the Mac is just similar to some carefree-inducing toy found at Toys R Us — the place for kids living in a perfect world filled with colourful Teletubbies running around hugging one another.

Star Trek demonstrates the divide between the PC and Mac very well. The Federation who uses their bright and happy designer-style computer interface is the equivalent of the sophisticated Mac users.

Sadly, the equivalent of the PC-users have gone extinct in that future time period and can only be found when the Enterprise warps back in time.

I bet many Mac users feel that the PC is just too ugly and dull to match their stylish and minimalistic home deco, but are too sophisticated and politically-correct to never mention it out loud.

Really, the blocky PC design can stand out too much from stylish furniture and deco in the wrong way. It also looks quite rugged and intimidating just like some armour shield thingy being used to fight battles and intimidate opponents. In fact, most hardcore gamers who fight online battles use the PC, the very-functional and scheming people from the corporate world also like to use them.

The guy in the following video should have used a Mac monitor with more rounded edges instead.


Monday, February 17, 2014

5000 Homeless People in Denmark? — Another Video Reveals More About Denmark's 'Happiest' Status

There are 5000 homeless people in Denmark? Their welfare system and high tax rates are obviously not very effective in bringing the gap between the poor and the rich.

Denmark Can Be Funny too — Denmark's Version of 'Peter Chao'



The video is part of a satire show made in Denmark called "Det Slører Stadig"(It Blurs Still) that is about the funny portrayal of non-locals. It had me fooled, at first I thought there was a real reporter from Dubai. That's the power of good acting.

http://translate.google.com.sg/translate?hl=en&sl=da&u=http://da.wikipedia.org/wiki/Det_sl%25C3%25B8rer_stadig&prev=/search%3Fq%3DDet%2Bsl%25C3%25B8rer%2Bstadig%26client%3Dfirefox-a%26hs%3DiwH%26rls%3Dorg.mozilla:en-US:official%26channel%3Drcs

Other clips of the satire show can be found here —
http://www.youtube.com/user/detslorerstadig/videos

Sunday, February 16, 2014

Danish Debunking of Oprah's Views on Denmark

Someone just posted a debunk video on YouTube a few days ago about Oprah and Denmark. It contains lots of video footage from Denmark TV.

Debunking Oprah's claims about Denmark
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fmhX-dT78XY